Emotional Support

For many people, going through a separation can feel like you are on a roller coaster. Emotions can feel out of control and it can take time to feel back on solid ground. How long this takes and how separation affects people, is different in every case. Counselling or therapeutic support from a specialist, prior to the start of mediation, could assist in helping you feel like you are emotionally ready to start making arrangements with your former partner, in a practical and helpful way.

Specialist counsellors or therapists can provide support to either individuals or couples in the following areas:

coming to terms with the separation
finding helpful ways of relating to the emotional distress/upset experienced following separation and your feelings towards your former partner
protecting your mental health
managing day to day activities
focusing on the future and taking practical steps forward
separating your personal needs from those of your children
focusing on the needs of your children
renegotiating your relationship with your former partner as a parent
working together in mediation to find mutually acceptable solutions to joint areas of concern following your separation

The following counsellors/therapists provide some or all of the above types of support:

Holly Carter at https://www.hollycartercounsellor.co.uk
Dinah Mears at http://exetertherapy.com
Marian Swinfen at https://torbaytalkingtherapy.co.uk/our-therapists/marian-swinfen/
Sally Hoult Email at sallyhoult.counselling@gmail.com
Psychology Associates at www.psychologyassociates.org.uk
Nikki Ellis email at nikki@gatehousepartners.co.uk

Please note that these are not specific recommendations and clients should ensure that they feel comfortable with any person that they see and use the BACP or UKAHPP or UKCP websites for the counsellors’ details and qualifications.

Testimonials

The mediations sessions that my husband and I received helped us enormously to discuss in an amicable way our finances going forward in our divorce and therefore reaching a settlement amicably. The sessions we received via zoom worked extremely well especially as my husband was then living abroad enabling us to carry on with the process in a manner which didn't instigate relationship tensions which both parties felt developed during negotiations with our respective solicitors.

Adrienne remained professional and sensitive to the upset and trauma that divorce can cause to either party. I felt that her mediation was clear, time efficient and with the ability to diffuse situations which at times became heated in a gentle but controlled manner.

I would most certainly have no hesitation in recommending Adrienne to anyone who unfortunately finds themselves going through a divorce. I would like to add that mediation not only saved my husband and I most certainly large solicitor fees but more than this it has enabled us to separate in an amicable way which at one time felt impossible. After 11 years of marriage this has been a gift in order to remember the good that we had together and not to be bitter because of the nature of the divorce process.

I can't fully express really just how helpful, reassuring and supportive I found working with you to be. You helped me to find a way through such difficult discussions and decisions at such a confusing and vulnerable time. Thank you so very much.

I was really pleased with it. I felt comfortable that we were going through things with a level headed, tactful guide.

I cannot think of any way to improve your service. It was especially tricky through lockdown and the fact that we were able to keep meeting in a safe, supportive and productive way was amazing.

Mediation with you exceeded my expectations. Having had several sessions with a different mediation service, I was apprehensive and actually pretty fearful of how the process would leave me feeling. You always made me feel reassured and I felt that our family was in good hands. Your calm and sensitive approach, along with your considerable expertise was invaluable and I so appreciated your honesty and objectivity. I always felt listened to and that the whole experience was impartial and balanced, with the welfare of the girls at the centre of everything. I would have been happy and confident for you to meet with the girls had we reached that point, knowing that you would be sensitive to them and their needs too.

Thank you so much for all your help and advice. I have found the experience invaluable and still often refer back to some of the things we talked about to guide my decisions and actions.

You were very helpful and approachable and fair. You kept us on track when conversations went off on a tangent & allowed us to reach a satisfactory conclusion.

I would highly recommend Adrienne Cox for any couple who is going through a divorce ( and especially where a young child is involved as was in our situation ). Adrienne is very professional, highly skilled and knowledgeable.

It has been a long road with many ups and downs between myself and my husband but Adrienne has always remained very professional, neutral and very patient. We got there in the end, thanks to Adrienne,with an amicable, healthy relationship between ourselves which is the best outcome possible for our Son and a clearer future for us all.

I was very impressed with your professional service and the way the sessions were conducted in a calm and understanding environment.

I am satisfied and convinced that I couldn't have found a more competent, professional and sympathetic mediator and mediation service than that offered by yourself and your mediation service.

Just to let you know that the consent order has now been approved, the house transferred and the decree of absolute through, so all done and dusted thanks to mediation.

I didn't know what to expect having never been through it before but was very satisfied with your service. I really didn't know where to turn but your service really helped me.

The client reported that the mediation with you was really good. You were understanding but firm and he said he thought they had all come away from mediation feeling progress had been made with them all having compromised.